Hello, I'm Mistress Honey and I Welcome you to My Blogg.
I started My Blogg because I want to express My Virtuous, Dominant Affections.
I Love being Virtuous Dominant, Confident, Assertive and Strongwill here on earth.
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Just found your blog and can't wait to read more. I inferred from your post that your African American and i honestly think that Black Women are the sexiest in the world! You should have no trouble finding many potential quality submale suitors. Please keep us posted on your journey!
Thank you sweet helpmate for your Compliment and the welcome.
Interesting blog. I found it accidentally by looking something else.I realize that Female-led relationships and BDSM have things in common but they are not necessarily the same. Although I find fascinating the issue of being in a relationship or marriage where my Dominant partner leads I am concerned with the following issue. What happens if my wife intervenes in my business affairs ?
Do not you think that it could be damaging ? I say that because I am an artist. I have my own schedules of work, often I compose at night,creativity has its own hours and ways.So although I feel strongly the desire of being in a Female-led relationship and let my
wife being the boss, I have this concern how such a relationship can co-exist with my craft.I would appreciate having an answer.
With all the best thoughts.
Dionn_FLR
Dionn_FLR you are correct Female-Led Marriages and BDSM do have some similarities but are not the same. Unless Dom/Wife and sub/husband incorporates BDSM into their Marriage.
Female-Led Marriage
She takes on the Role of Head of the Household, Wife-Led marriages are Superior to a traditional marriage.
Women do better when in charge of the household. They've very Strong-Willed Personality. In marriage, She is Boss of the household, loves being in charge. Always have control of all the financial aspects of the household, stay-at-home or She and the husband works or own Businesses. Makes all of the final decisions as to what they do, where they go, what they spend in finances. Also She consider his opinion on things, not that She always use it.
Also each Female-Led Marriage is different and unique.
Many submissive men love their Dominant Wives to be in charge, it makes them feel secure.
Dominant Women Love to be in control, they love structure and know what needs to be done in their household and their finances, etc., they don't consult their husband. They are Dominant Female-Leaders.
Female-Led Relationships:
Frequently Asked Questions
http://www.venus-on-top-society.com/faq-vot.html
BDSM consist of:
"Bondage & Discipline/Dominance & Submission/Sadism
Masochism," Involving Role-playing and Negotiation in Sexual situations.
As for your concerns of the Dominant Wife/Partner controlling the Business affairs, if your Wife/Dom is capable of handling all the Business aspect, than sub/hub and Wife/Dom should agree in unison sub/hubs relinquish position in all of Financial Affairs.
Couples in a Mistress/sub or Dom-Wife/sub-hub marriage/relationship have taken the last step.
They're serious in their marriage/commitment to each other, marriages of the Dom-Wife/sub-hub relationship are lifelong that is a 'real life' marriage and children AKA family. It's a Wife Dominated marriage.
In a committed Dom-Wife/sub-hub marriage, the Dom-Wife has taken all responsibility for their lives together. It's Her responsibility to care for Her sub-hub, to see to his spiritual and physical and emotional needs. She the Dom-Wife is the Provider and Keeper, if he the sub-hub should decide not to work.
Couples, who are Female-Led, say that it makes their marriage deeper and more committed. Trust of the sub-hub to give himself completely to his Dom-Wife will heighten their loving marriage beyond their hopes and dreams.
True honesty with open communications are strong foundations for Dom-Wives/sub-hubs. Their Love, devotion, commitment, and trust are higher than any other. Dom-Wives/sub-hubs do 'play' and have 'scenes' which are unique times when they focus on one another and their BDSM activities take place, their lives are more or less 'in play'; that is to say the sub-hub always gives proper respect, obeys his Dom-Wife, obeys Her Rules set forth by Her, learns to anticipate his Dom-Wife needs, and lives to please his Dom-Wife in real life and play. The Dom-Wife learns what the sub-hub needs to be spiritually, physically and emotionally to be healthy, and happy in real life and play, to fulfill his duties to his Dom-Wife.
It is agreed upon that submission given can also be taken back should the sub-hub feels that the Dom-Wife/sub-hub marriage isn't fulfilling or dangerous and isn't what She or he thought it was going to be. Many sub-hubs who've pledge his submission, feel that once he has made his decision to 'submit,' he is totally committed. This is total devotion that the sub-hub needs in order to be and feel fulfilled. This is the last step for Dom-Wife/sub-hub marriages. The sub-hub can make no more decisions, you'll find that these 'sub-hubs' are strong men, many who have jobs or businesses inside the home and outside. The sub-hub has needs to be completely submitted to his Dom-Wife, to trust his Dom-Wife with his life, his heart, his soul and his finances. The Dom-Wife's agreement to Her responsibilities is their Marriage. They fulfill the needs of each other Perfectly, with their Love, Trust, and their Devotion in their Dom-Wife/sub-hub marriage. This is what many Dominant/submissive seek in their lives. If this is what you Desire and Need, you'll do all to bring it to pass. Dominant Women and submissive men who have married and taken upon Dom-Wife/sub-hub marriages have Proof that their marriages have changed for the Better.
Hello Mistress Honey and thank You for the long reply.I have lived in the past in both vanilla relationship where both man and Woman are equal.It seems to me so alien type of relationship as it would seem to a gay man. I also have been in BDSM relationships lately but-although I found them fulfilling- still was something missing.What was that ? A meaningful relationship with one element very different than the
mainstream traditional ones.I have been looking for a relationship where the Woman would be the head of the household. Such a thought perhaps sounds outrageous.
Even myself I was questioning my mental and emotional balance.It sounds so awkward,ugly,sounds weakness....but at the same time it was a reality for me. Would you like to hear something even more outrageous ???
Just for the Woman being dominant is not my real call. The type of the Woman that perhaps matches my type of personality would be a Woman who is not just Dominant but also....bossy.
I hope that I do not shock you, yes,a bossy-type of Lady who feels comfortable to boss around her husband is the right type for me.
Of course I do not talk for an abusive Woman.If i trust a Woman with my submission and She becomes abusive put-down and intimidating that would totally make me shut-off myself to the relationship. I would like a Woman who is caring exciting and passionate uses Her dominance not to satisfy her whims but as a tool of marriage leadership.I cannot talk for others but there is a peculiar psychology in me.When I feel closeness and loving feelings for a Woman, I feel the need to become submissive to Her.In other words submission to me is a result of closeness to the Woman not a fetish.And the more comfortable and close I become to Her the more submissive I feel for Her.I am not sure if my words make sense.By the same token, if say my Domme-partner/Wife desires to punish me for infractions, I receive the punishment as a gesture of love and affection and this makes me to feel very loving to Her.I never feel so loving as I feel after I receive a disciplinarian spanking.
Taking orders from my Wife and trying to do as She says, to be obedient to Her and compliant to Her wishes is a form of deep fulfilment.Other ordinary men who read this posting perhaps think that I am weak or not a real man.
In my daily life I act, behave in a very manly way.I look manly, I sound so,my work is responsible and edgy,but beyond this,in my private-personal life I am a totally different person.I have not found this special Woman but I believe that She is somewhere...I hope my posting is not too shocking.You have a great blog. I like most of what You have posted.
Hello Ms Honey...
I could say that I like
what you say about FEMALE-LED RELATIONSHIPS.I believe that the same way as some men are born to be gay, some men are born to be submissive.A typical vanilla woman for me would not mean anything more than just a good friend.The
type of woman that I can be with
would be a Dominant but also loving bossy lady who would be in charge of the relationshi.BUT, HERE IS THE PROBLEM AND MY QUESTION. I am an artist, my work
requires freedom of movement,traveling, freedom of thinking and "hours alone working on my craft"
So as you can see I am split between my need for a Female-led serious rrelationship and my love for my arts.How do you think that these two can co-exist ? So far I have not found the answer that's why I chosen to be single. At the same time I know that I could offer a lot to a relationship with a Dominat Woman. What is Your answer to this question ?
You have my best regards. Have a great day
My Reply:PROBLEM AND YOUR QUESTION
Dionn your problem can be solve if you want, but it is up to you what you will sacrifice for your Happiness. You want a Dom/Wife also you want your Craft you want both. As for your requirements of freedom of movement, traveling, freedom of thinking and "hours alone working on your craft. Travel together if possible, yes your Dom/Wife should support you in your Career also you must support Her. Dom/Wife must be of Like Minded, you two must agree on both of your needs, wants and Desires. If you can't find the Dom/Wife of your dreams/desires than you'll be single for a season until you find Her.
I think it important for those of us who wish to serve the Superior Female to remember you really have no choice if she chooses to enslave you. We must remember:
"The male is the pursuer and the Female the pursued.
Therein lies the Females power and strength over the
lowly male. Foolish is the Female who does not use
her Superior power to subjugate the male to a lifetime
of slavery and servitude for her pleasure."
Mistress Honey.
I think it is important for those of us who wish to to serve The Superior Female to remember we really have no choice if she decides to enslave us. We must always remember our station in this life as described below.
"The male is the pursuer and the Female the pursued.
Therein lies the Females power and strength over the
lowly male. Foolish is the Female who does not use
her Superior power to subjugate the male to a lifetime
of slavery and servitude for her pleasure."
Mistress Honey
A website you may be interested in.
http://www.kingcard.com/fem.htm
It includes some of my own experiences and those of others along with a few stories.
Sincerely,
lickit4unow
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