Female-Led Marriages and BDSM do have some similarities but are not the same. Unless Dom/Wife and sub/husband incorporates BDSM into their Marriage.
Female-Led Marriage
She takes on the Role of Head of the Household, Wife-Led marriages are Superior to a traditional marriage.
Women do better when in charge of the household. They've very Strong-Willed Personality. In marriage, She is Boss of the household, loves being in charge. Always have control of all the financial aspects of the household, stay-at-home or She and the husband works or own Businesses. Makes all of the final decisions as to what they do, where they go, what they spend in finances. Also She consider his opinion on things, not that She always use it.
Also each Female-Led Marriage is different and unique.
Many submissive men love their Dominant Wives to be in charge, it makes them feel secure.
Dominant Women Love to be in control, they love structure and know what needs to be done in their household and their finances, etc., they don't consult their husband. They are Dominant Female-Leaders.
Female-Led Relationships:
Frequently Asked Questions
http://www.venus-on-top-society.com/faq-vot.html
BDSM consist of:
"Bondage & Discipline/Dominance & Submission/Sadism
Masochism," Involving Role-playing and Negotiation in Sexual situations.
As for your concerns of the Dominant Wife/Partner controlling the Business affairs, if your Wife/Dom is capable of handling all the Business aspect, than sub/hub and Wife/Dom should agree in unison sub/hubs relinquish position in all of Financial Affairs.
Couples in a Mistress/sub or Dom-Wife/sub-hub marriage/relationship have taken the last step.
They're serious in their marriage/commitment to each other, marriages of the Dom-Wife/sub-hub relationship are lifelong that is a 'real life' marriage and children AKA family. It's a Wife Dominated marriage.
In a committed Dom-Wife/sub-hub marriage, the Dom-Wife has taken all responsibility for their lives together. It's Her responsibility to care for Her sub-hub, to see to his spiritual and physical and emotional needs. She the Dom-Wife is the Provider and Keeper, if he the sub-hub should decide not to work.
Couples, who are Female-Led, say that it makes their marriage deeper and more committed. Trust of the sub-hub to give himself completely to his Dom-Wife will heighten their loving marriage beyond their hopes and dreams.
True honesty with open communications are strong foundations for Dom-Wives/sub-hubs. Their Love, devotion, commitment, and trust are higher than any other. Dom-Wives/sub-hubs do 'play' and have 'scenes' which are unique times when they focus on one another and their BDSM activities take place, their lives are more or less 'in play'; that is to say the sub-hub always gives proper respect, obeys his Dom-Wife, obeys Her Rules set forth by Her, learns to anticipate his Dom-Wife needs, and lives to please his Dom-Wife in real life and play. The Dom-Wife learns what the sub-hub needs to be spiritually, physically and emotionally to be healthy, and happy in real life and play, to fulfill his duties to his Dom-Wife.
It is agreed upon that submission given can also be taken back should the sub-hub feels that the Dom-Wife/sub-hub marriage isn't fulfilling or dangerous and isn't what She or he thought it was going to be. Many sub-hubs who've pledge his submission, feel that once he has made his decision to 'submit,' he is totally committed. This is total devotion that the sub-hub needs in order to be and feel fulfilled. This is the last step for Dom-Wife/sub-hub marriages. The sub-hub can make no more decisions, you'll find that these 'sub-hubs' are strong men, many who have jobs or businesses inside the home and outside. The sub-hub has needs to be completely submitted to his Dom-Wife, to trust his Dom-Wife with his life, his heart, his soul and his finances. The Dom-Wife's agreement to Her responsibilities is their Marriage. They fulfill the needs of each other Perfectly, with their Love, Trust, and their Devotion in their Dom-Wife/sub-hub marriage. This is what many Dominant/submissive seek in their lives. If this is what you Desire and Need, you'll do all to bring it to pass. Dominant Women and submissive men who have married and taken upon Dom-Wife/sub-hub marriages have Proof that their marriages have changed for the Better.
